I thought Koy was so selfish for buying a ring that was literally the opposite in every way of what I like…. I mean, why don’t men EVER listen?? These days most women are picking out their own rings, couples are even breaking from tradition and making the big purchase together. Are you emasculating your man by demanding the ring YOU want?
I am not a spoiled brat or anything, as a matter of fact I ask him to not buy gifts for me all of the time, I’m just not into it. To be honest the ring I wanted cost much less than the one he bought. It was everything I hated- yellow gold, ( I liked white ) Wide thick band ( I expressed to him I wanted a band so thin it looked invisible!! ) Multiple stones, ( I like large solitaries) and worst of all it was a diamond. After having been an avid rock collector for years of my life, and expressing to him how I would love to have a non-traditional gem he still went with diamonds.
I never told Koy that I hated the ring, because I didn’t want to hurt him, but my feelings were hurt because I felt that he didn’t even know me after years of being together. After reading the book the five love languages, my eyes were opened so much to understanding his personality and the way that we each express love in our own way. I wold soon discover just why he kept buying me gifts even though I keep asking him to stop. Most importantly I now understand that he bought the ring HE liked because it is how he says “I Love You” and ” Be Mine” to me. I quickly learned to love my engagement ring.u
Soon after, while we were buying wedding bands I had a chance to get the ring I wanted. The sales lady tried her best to sell me a new set. As I said goodbye to the ring I had been coveting for five years, “I’ll keep this one, it’s very special to me.” I told her. In the end, I choose to love the ring that he picked for me, and I can’t imagine taking that traditional rite away from him as a man. Every time I see it I am reminded to find and appreciate all of the ways that my husband says “I Love you” to me, so that I will never take him for granted.